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birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
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Poll: New and Improved Birth Order Survey
Only Child |
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2 | 12.5% |
Youngest Child |
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5 | 31.3% |
Middle Child |
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No votes | 0% |
Eldest Child |
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9 | 56.3% |
Total number of voters: 16 ( Aikan, Charlotte , Tomer Boyarski, Eric, Jackson ) See more | |||
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12 years 8 months ago - 12 years 8 months ago #8937
by Ona Kiser
birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest? was created by Ona Kiser
Are you an oldest sibling, youngest sibling, middle child, only child?
In a convo with some friends noticing we ware *all* oldest siblings, and wondering if there was some weird pattern where people who get into meditation tend to be oldest siblings.
So this is the non-scientific survey. A short answer is sufficient, lurkers please join in!
Maybe interesting to note: if you have any siblings, do they meditate?
My answers:
I'm an oldest.
Have one sibling who does not meditate.
In a convo with some friends noticing we ware *all* oldest siblings, and wondering if there was some weird pattern where people who get into meditation tend to be oldest siblings.
So this is the non-scientific survey. A short answer is sufficient, lurkers please join in!
Maybe interesting to note: if you have any siblings, do they meditate?
My answers:
I'm an oldest.
Have one sibling who does not meditate.
Last edit: 12 years 8 months ago by Ona Kiser.
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12 years 8 months ago #8939
by Chris Marti
Replied by Chris Marti on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I am the oldest of two and my younger brother does not meditate at all that I know of.
12 years 8 months ago #8940
by Russell
Replied by Russell on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Oldest. 2 other siblings that don't meditate that I know of.
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12 years 8 months ago #8945
by Laurel Carrington
Replied by Laurel Carrington on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Youngest of three, two older brothers both autistic and did not live at home. So I'm atypical, grew up as a hybrid between youngest child and only child.
12 years 8 months ago #8947
by Andy
Replied by Andy on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Oldest of three brothers. I'm pretty sure neither of them meditate.
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12 years 8 months ago #8948
by Kate Gowen
Replied by Kate Gowen on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Oldest of 4: 2 sisters, 1 brother. One sister is at least meditation-curious, and is a prodigiously productive artist; one sister I lost track of 2 decades ago, when I resigned from being permanently 'the big sister.' Brother also meditation-curious, via passions of music and botany.
My original hypothesis had less to do with being interested in meditation, more to do with the characteristic approach to practice-- as in, finding the 'relaxing into meditation/resting in the natural state' approach... challenging.
My original hypothesis had less to do with being interested in meditation, more to do with the characteristic approach to practice-- as in, finding the 'relaxing into meditation/resting in the natural state' approach... challenging.
12 years 8 months ago #8949
by Colin
Replied by Colin on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I'm the oldest.
Have a brother and sister, both who do not meditate and probably would find resting in the natural state approach... challenging. Although they might like the idea, they do not have any motivation toward it.
Have a brother and sister, both who do not meditate and probably would find resting in the natural state approach... challenging. Although they might like the idea, they do not have any motivation toward it.
12 years 8 months ago #8951
by nadav
Replied by nadav on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Oldest. My sister, four years younger, has meditated occasionally for relaxation / sleep but doesn't do it regularly, as far as I know. Both of my parents have meditated and I think do it currently.
12 years 8 months ago #8952
by Kacchapa
Replied by Kacchapa on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I'm oldest of 4. None of my 3 sibs meditate. (my mother, mother-in-law, wife and youngest daughter do, but not the oldest daughter)
12 years 8 months ago #8953
by Shoshin
Replied by Shoshin on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Oldest. I have two sisters, they both meditate (non-Buddhist approaches). My youngest sister is very awake - I suspect she's at least at Stream Entry or beyond. She's a "do-it-yourselfer" who has cobbled together her own creative approach. My mother-in-law is a serious Christian contemplative.
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12 years 8 months ago - 12 years 8 months ago #8968
by every3rdthought
Replied by every3rdthought on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Oldest of three, neither of my siblings meditate... Of course birth order is a massively crude way to describe what anyone might be like but in my own practice I do definitely see stereotypical characteristics of 'oldest-child-ness,' and also see that those might have been why I found and was attracted to a Pragmatic/Hardcore Dharma take rather than another - eg perfectionism, high achiever, anxiety, all of those not-very-relaxing type approaches, as Kate mentions above

Last edit: 12 years 8 months ago by every3rdthought.
12 years 8 months ago #8969
by Ona Kiser
Replied by Ona Kiser on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Yeah, that might be the filter here. Or oldests are more prone to using computers (and participating in forums)?

12 years 8 months ago #8970
by Russell
Replied by Russell on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Hah, yeah now that I think about it. At least to my knowledge, I am not only the oldest, but the geekiest. So, yes I am more prone to using computers and internet forums than my siblings as well.
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12 years 8 months ago #8979
by Bill Scaife
Replied by Bill Scaife on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I too am an oldest, of four. One sister and two brothers, and I don't think any of them have tried meditation.
12 years 8 months ago #8984
by Ona Kiser
Replied by Ona Kiser on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
So are all the youngest siblings off doing spirit-channeling or freestyle contact dancing or what? This is weird.
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12 years 8 months ago #8985
by Florian Weps
Replied by Florian Weps on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I'm the oldest, of three. There is a 7-year gap between me and my next younger sister, so I grew up as an only child for about half my childhood.
I only have contact with one sister, and she does spiritual practices (yoga, shamanism, psychology/spirituality things).
I note that this informal survey draws on the types attracted to awakenetwork.org. On the DhO, for example, I see a lot of "younger sibling" behavior (without knowing if that's actually the case) so awakenetwork might be a self-selecting "older siblings club" anyway, all of whom meditate, obviously
Cheers,
Florian
I only have contact with one sister, and she does spiritual practices (yoga, shamanism, psychology/spirituality things).
I note that this informal survey draws on the types attracted to awakenetwork.org. On the DhO, for example, I see a lot of "younger sibling" behavior (without knowing if that's actually the case) so awakenetwork might be a self-selecting "older siblings club" anyway, all of whom meditate, obviously

Cheers,
Florian
12 years 8 months ago #8987
by Ona Kiser
Replied by Ona Kiser on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Florian, you may just have shined a light on my entire worldview. LOL. Really interesting. Thanks.
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12 years 8 months ago #8994
by Chris Marti
Replied by Chris Marti on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Yes, we are a self-selected, non-random small sample. A statistician would laugh uproariously at the assertion that any trend developed from our group would be meaningful in any way. That said, it's still interesting from a common sense behavioral standpoint to think about how birth order might affect one's mediation practice.
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12 years 8 months ago #9014
by Jake St. Onge
Replied by Jake St. Onge on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Well I was tempted to lie as I read through this thread just to change things up!
But I'm the oldest of two, and although my little brother went to an IMS retreat when he was a teenager he just fell in love and went skinny dipping and other fun stuff like that there. I was much too serious for that sort of thing, being the responsible older sibling and all.
Sheesh, what a hilarious thread!
Perhaps oldests are more likely to read and respond to a birth order themed thread?
But I'm the oldest of two, and although my little brother went to an IMS retreat when he was a teenager he just fell in love and went skinny dipping and other fun stuff like that there. I was much too serious for that sort of thing, being the responsible older sibling and all.
Sheesh, what a hilarious thread!
Perhaps oldests are more likely to read and respond to a birth order themed thread?
12 years 8 months ago #9015
by Ona Kiser
Replied by Ona Kiser on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Or all the youngests are out partying while we deal with the serious problems?

12 years 8 months ago #9016
by nadav
Replied by nadav on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
They don't need meditation because they have such great older siblings. Or, we need meditation because of our shifty younger siblings.
12 years 8 months ago #9038
by Tina
Replied by Tina on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I am the oldest of two, and my sister does not meditate. She looks at me like I have two heads if I mention the subject!
12 years 8 months ago #9041
by Ona Kiser
Replied by Ona Kiser on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
Tee hee. Mine called me weird. But a year later I caught her reading Pema Chodron...
12 years 8 months ago #9085
by Jackson
Replied by Jackson on topic Re: birth order survey: are you an oldest, youngest?
I'm the youngest of three. My brother is six years older, and my sister is three years older.
Interesting to see how many eldest siblings there are in this group. Overachievers!
Interesting to see how many eldest siblings there are in this group. Overachievers!